Can anyone give advice on what they did to truly dig deep and get to another level to get to your best self?
Yes, first keep doing it. Eventually you will transition from doing it for her to doing it for you! We call it faking it until you make it.
Second, keep working on detaching. The more you try to detach, the less your changes and actions will be about her.
And finally, continue to work on the realization that you have NO control over her. If you are doing what you are doing to control her, then you need to let that go. For me this was the biggest epiphany, that I have control over exactly one person, me. And once I realized that then the changes I was making became more about changing to better myself than trying to get her back.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
