DnJ, Thank you very much for the feedback and advice. My apologies for the way I have been explaining things.
Originally Posted by DnJ
What do you see as “it”? What don’t you want to expose to D11 and S9? The living situation, the custody arrangements?
The "it" is the fact that my wife said and wrote that she wants a divorce and has filed. I do not want to tell my eldest kids this because: 1) things could change and wife could come back, which makes it even harder to explain the back and forth of my wife and my relationship; 2) they see my wife physically maybe 5 times per year because they live in a different state than my wife, and when I say them 95% of the time my wife does not join me; 3) my ex would get wind of this and cause havoc on me and probably file a modification of custody and claim my eldest need counseling, etc. #3 is a mess I really do not need right now, when my wife and I are not divorced yet. I hope this makes sense. And thank you.
