Husband aged, trying 180 (4)

[LANE777]

I think you did alright. I think maybe not feel so sorry for him. I would have been silent. Especially since hes the one that brought this whole thing on to himself. But the rest was good. But definitely get a schedule put together. It will be so helpful. It shows you're being the responsible one. Oh , he will try to bend the rules, but just relax and stand firm. Make sure you're showing change. Part of that is not being so sweet and nice. Oh and if he tries to make the moves on you to be intimate, put that to a screeching halt. No more from here on out. That's more of a man need. Keep your conversation short and to the point. I know you have a baby together, but hes living a double life. Dont be the enabler, it just makes life easier for him. The changes you make wont happen over night. It will take a few weeks to months. But start the mindset now. You know you're a strong woman, a great mom, you know you deserve better than this. I know you love him. But your best chance of anything is to save yourself first. Stay positive. Hes all depressed and can't decide anything. I can remember back in my early days of going to bars all the time. It was fun and depressing all at the same time. You cant find wholesome companion there. As soon as I stopped, it took a while but I finally found my wife.
Anyways, back to you. He wont find a wholesome gal there. And if there is one, she wont want a bar fly. Right now, he thinks it's cool and fun, but I see signs of guilt for not seeing his D. So be the stronger person, hes certainly not. Hes not thinking clearly at all. But you need to be a boss and put your foot down from a distance...silently.