First post, what next?

[Terapin]

Thanks. Yeah, I've been DB'ing, GALing, etc (somewhat. lol). We're still in the same house, but not in the same bed (although unfortunately that started a while ago, not just since BD). My W has gotten drunk and nuts a few times during this. Like I said, your sitch and mine seem somewhat similar, so I'm going to stay interested in your progress!

Edit: In my sitch, there has still been ZERO sex, and very little physical contact or affection at all.

Hey Terapin found your threads and read through, tough situation. Wish I could give you advice but this is new to me. There are some similarities though in our situations. I found I couldn't move ahead until I truly let go, I was mad too I was going to go file on my own and say here now you got what you want. Once I accepted it and let go things started to change, and my anger, self hate, guilt, and frustration fell away, I was stripped of it, and it felt good. I am going through life right now feeling that my wife doesn't want me, and I am OK with that. And it seems the more I accept it the more responsive she is. Still have a long road ahead.

Paul,

Have read over your sitch and looks like good progress is being made. I wish you the best and will continue to check in. Best wishes. Take care.

Thanks for the support Seekn

"feeling that my wife doesn't want me". That's a very good attitude to have, and I'm going to try incorporating that into my thoughts. Every time she says or does something that bothers or confuses me, "so what, she doesn't want me anyway". Thanks!