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[Jim1234]

We saw the mediator, and I think we have all the issues worked out, including the financial ones. Of course, the draft she provides translating our agreements into a legal document has to be right, but I'm optimistic that we're done.

At the end of our session, I told W much of what I said in my last post..... I thought I was the greatest husband, about waiting for her to change... and some other stuff. I told her I thought we should get divorced, and asked if we could leave all our baggage behind, and go to one last counseling session to see if we could work on a new improved relationship. I had it written down so I wouldn't screw it up, and afterward she didn't give me an answer, but did ask for the paper it was written on. I don't know what that means.

Anyway, right now I feel great! I've done everything I can to keep my honor and marriage intact. I've treated her fairly and respectfully throughout. And I've gained enough distance that if she doesn't want to give it one more try, I don't really care. And if she does, great, but I won't take her back unconditionally; she will have to commit, and work, to meet my needs, too.