How can I feel this way about two men at the same time
At worst she is manipulative
And is just keeping you on the hook
She will be skeptical of the change in you
For a long time until she is sure it is real
Does she know you are against open marriage
That's the thing Gordie I don't think in her heart she wants a divorce, she hasn't filed anything. I honestly think initially she did, but I think she's very open to allowing me time to be a better husband and father, she has stated I am the love of her life. And to be further open I did not see any really passionate messages between them, at best it was flirting, and there were a couple messages in the exchanges telling him to cool it and back off when he overstepped. My biggest issue was her telling him about all our marriage problems, that's what hurt me the most. I believe she has put a stop to it, but again I can't be 100% sure, I have no way to now that, but I have to believe it because I can't go around feeling punched in the gut anymore, I need to keep on GAL and live day by day and see what happens. She told me the other night she has no real interest in the guy. Again I cannot confirm this but I need to believe it for my own healing and transition.
Hi Paul. I've been following your sitch. I'm a noob and in a similar sitch, so I don't have any real advice to offer. Your W does sound like mine in a way. My W said she wanted a D, was texting some dweeb for a few weeks, had it blow up on her, and has still not moved towards D. Of course, she hasn't moved towards R either, but whatever. Anyway, I guess like everyone says, be the best that you can be, and hang in there!
Married: 15yrs Ages: Me 49, W 44 Kids: S12 BD: around 4/14
