Jay, very sorry you're going through this! My dad is an abusive narcissist as well. I put up with it most of my life "because he's my dad" but you know what? He has no right to abuse me and your dad has no right to abuse you. Several years ago after my dad threatened my brother-in-law's life while pointing a gun at him, I told him he owed my BIL an apology and instead he took a swing and tried to punch me in the face. I broke all contact and have barely spoken to him since. My attitude is cut the poison out of your life.
