I don't know if it's DB to continue to hope for R or not. And it may be a fool's errand...but I'm feeling more hopeful. About me. About my life. About my chances for R with W.
I'm still scared. And obviously I'm still Detaching. But I keep seeing positive signs.
I'm very excited to see what's going to happen going into the fall. In a year in which I have accomplished so much and experienced so many key moments, this sitch and accomplishing R, as Dick Enberg said at the end of Super Bowl 32, "Would be the the highest moment."
I think it is. I know in my sitch, as her attitude and actions started to change, and she moved back toward the MR, my hope went up. However, I continued to work on self-differentiation (look that up in relation to marriage) because not being properly detached, or overly attached, is NEVER a good thing. We live in an imperfect world. People change, die, etc.....If your happiness is overly attached to another person then you are setting yourself up for problems later.
So by all means, keep DBing, keep being hopeful, but remember to be happy with yourself!
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
