Hi jay. We don´t choose family but it is what we have. I get your pain man, just don´t be too harsh on your father. You don´t need to open a second battle front.
I never had a very good relation with my father. I clearly remember being a teenager and hearing mom and dad talking about me. My dad was saying that I was selfish. I took that what I heard as a truth and it made me change my relation with my brother and sister...I think it helped me at the end. 23 years after my dad passed away I discovered that he was not my real father...So, you know...we don´t choose family. Let time heal the wounds.
