O - Stay in your fox hole. Good job not taking the bait Over time she will realize she can't impact you emotionally.
I remember my D day. It was very emotionally draining and I had tears flowing down my cheeks as the judge sealed my fate. It was a very surreal moment but also liberating at the same time. As we walked out of the courthouse my XW rubbed my back and asked me if I was ok. I told her I was fine and walked off. Needless to say I didn't know she probably went home that night and banged her BF.
Over time she will realize she can't impact you emotionally.