Be careful assuming the EA is completely over. Just be vigilant and give it time. You'll know it is over when her actions are consistent over a long period of time. Like months.
Also, do not feel locked into your IC. If the one you are seeing isn't doing much for you feel free to try another. So many stay with an IC that doesn't do much for them. They are too expensive to settle like that.
Steve thank you for the advice and support. I am aware that the EA may not be completely over, but I can't let it consume me or suck my energy. I have the ability to control my actions and that's all I can do. It does enter my mind at times but I refuse to bring it up again, she can if she wants to. As far as I know she is coming to me for her sexual needs which is a positive step forward. I took the advice of "don't believe anything she tells you" to heart I am cautiously optimistic.
As far as my IC I am not expecting a lot, it's just a venting channel for me. I have 2 very good friends that have helped me far more than any counseling will ever help me, I don't expect someone who doesn't know me intimately and is not a stakeholder in my emotions to help me much. I have another session tomorrow, first session I talked a lot, now I am going to talk very little and see what she has to tell me. If we sit there in silence at $180/hr I might look for someone else.
