HH...wow...sounds like it's been an up and down (no pun intended) few days. You've always gone back to the porn issue so it's pretty clear that it bothers you A LOT more than you express to H.
It's good to see that he appreciated you giving that "gift" to him...but the guy obviously has bad timing. I keep thinking that he's not really LD...just LD under the current situation between you two.
The swing incident and some other things you've mentioned all point to this. I honestly think your H doesn't quite know how to express himself sexually...so he always ends up just doing things solo. That explains the eye candy stuff and the porn.
A good place to start might be working on ways to talk about how he can express himself more. Bring up the woman on the swing...it was pretty clear he was turned on...so talk about what was going through his mind. How could he act out those thoughts with you?
"The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step." – Lao Tzu
