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[Jim1234]

Well, I'm hoping the last year and a half apart may have given her a different perspective, and maybe she'll be open to seeing a counsellor together. If I'm being honest, she did work to save the marriage, for years. I think a large part of the problem was that I thought I was the greatest husband on the planet, so why should I change? So, we went to counselling, and I kept waiting for her to change. Eventually, she just didn't see the point, and gave up. Of course, it isn't that simple.... there were other factors like depression, but where I used to blame the divorce on depression, this board and time have helped me gain another perspective.

We are seeing the mediator, for I hope the final time today, to go over my financial proposal. If she accepts it, then I think we're done. I admit, I'm torn about whether to ask if she is willing to see a counsellor. I worry it's more pursuit, and that I'm not fully detached. If she declines, I'll be ok. The months have helped me realize she wasn't really a great wife, and I'm ok with moving on. I just couldn't live with myself if I didn't feel like I tried, all the way to the end, to prevent this.