Last week while we were away, I stupidly fell for her affection and I feel conned, stupid, used and betrayed all over again. She keeps throwing me crumbs and like a stupid lap dog I am waiting for scraps of hope
Shows you have to work on detaching. When you are detached and she gives you crumbs of affection, then you will accept them WITHOUT EXPECTATIONS. The problem wasn't that you accepted her affection, or even returned it, it was that you thought it meant R or moving toward R.
NO EXPECTATIONS.
Thanks Steve. Having took advice from qualified lawyers- as she had made false allegations about me- I have been advised to not go back to the FMH but I did tell her I am staying tonight as I am out with the children tomorrow and I want to give them their breakfast before we head out- if I wasn't at my mothers I would have them stay with me and not go back at all. I know I cannot trust her, and I am intent on detaching- I am already GALing and have lost 3 stones in weight, bought new clothes, so I am taking care of myself. The trouble is now, I cannot stay much longer at my mother's house- they are both getting older and can do without me being round the house all the time and as I say it limits my ability to have my children. I am in a real limbo situation.
M(41), W(37) S (6) D (4) S (2) M-8, T-12 W "I don't love you, I am in love with another man" "I don't know you anymore"
