Completely agree. Just get yourself educated. The fear goes away.
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If he has met with a lawyer, then you should definitely meet with a lawyer promptly.
Since he is a lier and deceptive, no way to know if he has or not. Idol threats or real? You know your H best. Even if he is in the fog.
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If he is only threatening to file (as so many people are), he is making the threat in order to control the process and keep you locked in fear. And he is doing that because he is afraid of the legal process. In many legal situations, there is a party who has an incentive to move through the legal process quickly and a party that does not have that incentive. Determine whether that applies to your situation. If you are in a financially stable situation and he is in a less financially stable situation, then you should the process forward slowly.
wise words.
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Most divorces are very easy to handle from a legal perspective. It is the emotions that complicate things and you are in control of your own emotions.
I am sure you can DIY divorce. I gave my divorce paperwork to a friend. He used it as an outline for his. Not complicated. My state has a flow diagram of the process on its website.
A mediator can help two people work out details they disagree on. I was in one room with my lawyer. Ex wife in the other with her lawyer. Mediator went back and forth between the rooms. I got "pro-se" written into the contract. IE any future issues are addressed with lawyers.
Lawyers drain the family financially.
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And if he says he wants a divorce, I would simply say "okay."
This stops the arguing.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
