Quote: He finally got so frustrated he said - and he's NEVER said this before - he thought it was about time we just gave up on this whole thing. Then a few minutes later he came back and apologized for saying that.
Just gave up on what? Your marriage? It sounds like HE has already "given up" on making it better. Make it clear to him that YOU are not yet ready to give up on YOURSELF, and that you have TOO MUCH self-respect to put up with that kind of behavior. Not the using porn part, but, as you say, the timing of it, and the fact that he refuses to share it with you. It looks to me like he has some real intimacy fears there... you and he need to explore them, and he has to confront himself on the subject of what is he so afraid of. Why does he need this guilty little-boy stuff? THAT's where the interesting part lies, I think...
