Is there hope? I have a WW

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Thanks Vapo and J9.
I really needed to hear from you guys today. I'm having one of those days. Glad you're here to help me through this storm. I know you've had to repeat alot of things or say it in a more blunt way. I'm glad you set me straight on her strange behaviors. Like you say, it would be a whole new relationship if it ever comes of it. My goal is to get to the point where I can see and think clearly. I'm so stuck on why a mom, wife would turn to this mess. How did she not see what was at stake? Anyways...she gets kids tonight. I'm going to disappear during the exchange. Probably best I dont see her . I don't want to get caught in the moment and start asking questions or something else that might ruin my progress. Not sure there's any progress to lose. It's been very quiet between us anyways. Makes me wonder who is coaching her to detach from me.

One thing i learned from my sitch is that they usually have detached slowly over the course of a few years or so before we even know a problem existed. Then we are left saying "wait, what happened, i didnt even know there was a problem".

That leaves us trying to do what theyve done over a few years in weeks and months. IMO, thats probably why we have such a roller coaster of emotions. Hell, i still love my W, but unfortunately that woman left 1.5 years ago and here i am. I had to come to terms with the fact that my old marriage is dead, unfortunately so is yours. That doesnt mean there isnt something down the road for you, but right now there is nothing.

I wish i had some magic answers, but as you know im in the same boat you are. Keep your head up L, control what you can(only you) and let the rest go.