Need Guidance moving from new comer to MLC,

[marina7]

OneArt,

Yes I also wonder that if W thought I was going fly off.
I will admit having kids change me and also having a awakening
When W and I met I was very inpatient no patients at all I needed things my way
But having 3 kids changes us parent for good or worse.

My kids all changed me for good.
S10 taught me unconditional love and I was in charge of a little person
D10 taught me the caring side the nurturing side of me.
S9 omg has taught me Patience he can make you want to lose your
Mind but he also teaches me to be your own person. He
Has a beautiful side of him. No care in the world

So yes when W goes into her tantrum W says always come on bring that
Old person I met, which is weird to hear W say that. Is like taunting me
Like poking a lion.

Is crazy sometimes to see W behavior,
I was more of the finance part made sure we budget and bills paid on time
W work, and spend and made the vacation plans and shopping and school things.

I won't lie this process made me realize I should been involved more in there life.
I was more of the fun parent I felt bad for working so much so when W would call
I would roll over to anything W wanted and kids, this is why W got her way so much. I always said
Happy Wife Happy Life..... lol

DnJ

You absolutely right before meditation I was in that place
W crisis not my circus not my monkeys
But seeing W break down W has just been monstrous and seeing her
Blaming me and rewrote our story literally W said
You controlling, you controlled me, you kept me away from family
I was so in shock because I was the opposite I would ask W have you spoken
to your parents W would answer No I would encourage call them. So
When W said all this I even question the last 10yrs I literally ask myself was I really
controlling but having a week to cool off no I just gave W my opinion

I need to focus back on me and kids. W needs to figure this out

As I told the therapist and there's in this Process W is F***ing up our life


I also realized the last 8 months that I'll take 51% of marriage breaking down.
The reason I say 51% is because my 1% in emotional affair but I also know I ask
For forgiveness to God, W and W parents even my step mom I knew I was wrong

Also in mediation W said OW and her where together after leaving but before that they where just Friends hahahaha
I mean really we are already separated just admit to your affair. W says it's not an affair because we
Separated around February or March... again wtf wow. I just nodded in disbelief.

Starting divorce group and divorce group for kids
I think ArtOne is right W saw me not broken in mediation
Before meditation I cried myself till no more tears took everyone advice and stood strong
So W didn't see that coming.

Thank you again for everyone advice

Question W uncle has a takwando studio kids always went
They stop going but they want to go. I emailed them like a business ask for price
He responded saying come in miss you guys. So should I go or stay away.