To me, it feels like you gave him permission to use porn only because you couldn't figure out anything else to do, then found that it doesn't sit well with you at all. I'd share that with him, if I were you. This isn't a legal contract, you have consulted your feelings and found that this is a really big deal for you, and you need him to understand that.
But also, going from ML to being locked out of the bedroom...yucko. That would drive me nuts. You just wanted to be close, and there you were locked out. Sounds like you overreacted, but you have a very valid complaint.
