My Story

[neffer]

Well lost. what do you want?

DB should fit no matter what your answer is.

It takes time, you know that.

[lost8]

Dunno, hard question to answer. I have been detaching, NC, etc, she is finding me and creating conflict.

[lost8]

Dunno, hard question to answer. I have been detaching, NC, etc, she is finding me and creating conflict.

[lost8]

Another follow up. W said tonight is last night here. She sent long texts to sons about everything going on and taking accountability and working on all of the things that have been ailing her. She mentioned that they could live with her if they want but she will always be their mother. She reached out to her father whom she has not spoken to in 3 months and said she would not ever again. I am happy for her if she is taking these steps towards happiness but I’m wondering if I am part of that picture. I guess I hit a new stage here and will see what happens next. This will suck but I guess there will be less conflict and more time for her to decide if she wants to be with me.

[neffer]

Hang in there. Eventually you´ll have to decide if YOU want to be with her.

Keep DB man. Be strong.

[lost8]

Yes DBing continues.....doubt she will stay away too long. I predict tonight then she will run off to her usual weekend getaway and be back Monday.

[lost8]

It still stinks, I know we are using DBing techniques but when the ultimate goal is to R, it is a real shot to the LBS when it gets to this level. She doesn't have the money or credit to get her own place and he is still married. She won't D or talk about an agreement and just don't understand what her motive is to stay married. There is money to be had and she can start her life over. I just don't get it.

[Gordie]

Patience

This is hard and it hurts

Stop wasting energy wondering about her motivation

She may know exactly what she is doing

She may have no idea

Or it may change minute to minute

Get busy with your own life

This is hard advice to follow

But even though you are living through he11

Keep your chin up

And keep moving ahead with your own life

Independent of w

What are you doing to become the best you

[neffer]

The ultimate goal is to become a DB master Jedi. As Gordie says, is to get the best you. Amoafwl.

[lost8]

Agreed was having a weak moment earlier. Got home worked out, grilling for my son. Had good convo with in laws. Have a personal training session with an old friend from work. Hot blonde who said she meets a lot of single ladies my age at her gym and would help me network with them. Just need to stay in the game.

Thanks guys!