Need Guidance moving from new comer to MLC,

[DnJ]

marina7 – I am glad you honestly meant it and you can see that you do.

I have read more than a few times how you are blaming yourself due to your actions from 4 years ago.

This is going to be hard to accept at first.

You did not cause W’s current actions; you did not cause her MLC.

W is very much hurting for what I did.

You past actions did hurt her, I get that. Her current behavior and actions are not that of a rational person. She is suffering MLC. If she wasn’t with you, she would still be off the deep end, just blaming something or someone else. Her hurt is probably from something long from her past, many years before she even knew you.

She is blaming you to justify her behavior. You are not the cause of her MLC. I do not even think you are the trigger. I think you said she had forgiven you before and is now bringing it up.

Realize this and forgive yourself. Her pain is not of your doing.

(((marina7)))

DnJ