They feel guilt but no remorse as they are too wrapped up in themselves. It will get worse before it gets better, just wait until OM meets your kids and you get D'd. Yes, I felt I was spinning for 6 months. I felt like I couldn't breathe for the first 3 months, no sleep, mentally exhausted all the time, not eating.....it gets better but you have to leave your W to her messes and resist any desire to be involved in her life. I do believe eventually most LBS's will have an opportunity for recon but that won't come until after you are D'd and the both of you have experienced new relationships. If at that time you still feel that your W is the best person for you and your timelines align then it is possible. You can always leave a small little fire burning deep inside you but it can burn so bright that it keeps you from moving forward with your life.
and you get D'd. Yes, I felt I was spinning for 6 months. I felt like I couldn't breathe for the first 3 months, no sleep, mentally exhausted all the time, not eating.....it gets better but you have to leave your W to her messes and resist any desire to be involved in her life. I do believe eventually most LBS's will have an opportunity for recon but that won't come until after you are D'd and the both of you have experienced new relationships. If at that time you still feel that your W is the best person for you and your timelines align then it is possible. You can always leave a small little fire burning deep inside you but it can burn so bright that it keeps you from moving forward with your life.
