Did, you can't imagine how difficult it is to read your posts. If there is a poster child for DB'ing, perhaps Steve or Maika, then you would be just about on the opposite end of the spectrum. I'm not saying that to offend, but to hopefully open your eyes. You are doing all the wrong things, all of the things we advise against. You are applying CONSTANT pressure to your W at a time when you should be removing all pressure. Nearly every conversation is relationship-related and started by you. AND you top it off by going out and dating another woman! NONE OF THIS IS WORKING. You are ruining your chances of recon, and you are NOT growing as a person. Your posts are all over the place swinging from "I want a divorce" to "I want to save my M" on pretty much a daily basis.
Here is my advice- FULL STOP. Quit talking to your W about anything other than kid care. Break it off with the new woman and plan on not dating anyone else for at least 6 months if not a year. Read DR again and get back to basics. Read Sandi's rules every day. Read back through your threads and REALLY READ the comments you're getting from others here. FOLLOW that advice. Focus on fixing you. Stop doing what YOU think is right and follow DB'ing principals.
To steal a line from Neffer....head shot.
Did, you have AS's attention. The guy is a DB SME. You would do well to pay heed to his advice if you want any chance of turning things around.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
