Hi OneArt, I see what you're saying and I'm not offended and hope I wasn't offensive either. I don't even have clear religious beliefs but my post was more about it being one of the ways we can cope with what's happening. I was reminded by attending a retreat that it presents a clear path but that doesn't mean there aren't other paths. For many it's exercise, music, hobbies, expanding social networks, etc... that helps them the most. In a broader sense we don't need to be religious but let's say we, our spouses, or both experienced a loss of morality or ethics (in lieu of the word God or religion). Most of us have a sense of what's right or wrong. Ultimately many of these spouses must know what they're doing is wrong because it's hurting their loved ones and their actions are self-serving which isn't how it's supposed to be in marriage. Anyway I found that faith is important but I should have edited my e-mail last night to word it differently. I apologize for that. I'll make an effort on my end to avoid deepening the schism since we're all suffering just the same from the loss of our marriages and faith is one of many elements that plays into our situations.
