A familiar story with questions. VI

[RR17]

I'm going to throw this out there, not because I have mastered Limbo Land, but because I hope to take some wind out of its sails.
Instead of a fight or flight mode, you catch your breath and take inventory.

Somewhere in these threads it is written that your S has given you the gift of time. The real problem with Limbo is that unlike other stages of DBing, limbo isn't fueled by the other intense emotions. Fear, Anger, intense Sadness are all controlling emotions. Meaning you are subject to there effects. Along for their ride, if you will.
Limbo Land is a calm stagnation that allows YOU to captain the ship. Or at least feel like you are. To see where things are and where they have been. To vacillate between "This is working" to "Is this working" to "I don't know if I want this.." and " How dare this person put me through this schit"

Point is and if I have learned anything by and about the phase it is this:
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[*]Learn to separate the mood swings from the true feelings. Do you feel this way just today or do you want to change your relationship goals?


[*]Mood swings are inevitable. What you do with them is your choice.


[*]Time is a gift and use it well. Be glad you are no longer in Fight or Flight mode.