I was on the phone when I got the message and wasn't paying attention to the details:)
A relationship is on where you consider the other persons feelings, make an effort to make sure they feel secure and have a level of consistency. Perhaps she is saying she doesn't want an R because she can't offer those things right now?
Hey, that was HC's thing. He wanted to see me, date me, dessert me, whatever you want to call it. But he wsn't in a place to offer me consistency and reassurance. Hence, no R, hence, it doesn't work for me or him.
