RE: Returning- After some bad stuff- need advice

[mbe76]

I am assuming that you are not ok with sharing your W with another man?

Absolutely *****ing no way!

You should have said: I am not going to be anybody's fuching plan B.

Yes- I did actually say it in stronger terms that, I said something like "I am your husband I don't want to be your friend and I will not share you with any other man- I will not be a plan B for anyone- and if you think I will hang around your are kidding yourself, because I won't" I then walked away and never invited a response- I said it with firmness and left her in no doubt she looked somewhat taken aback.

Lastly about your question:

Your W is in an active affair, is toying with your emotions to get enjoy her fantasy world. If she then makes false allegations against you to the police, you see a lawyer the next day and you file for divorce.

Her last comment on this was that she is not having an A, and she thinks she may want to live alone as a single mother- the trouble is she has told me she doesn't want to/ isn't willing to leave the MH- which we are joint tenants on- and because she is a SAHM I have been paying all the bills- since I was forced to leave, I have taken my name of the bills so I am not financially liable to pay them, I have however been paying for 50% of the mortgage and home insurance, and also been paying a generous monthly allowance to effectively pay child maintenance. And this is part of the problem- she is getting benefits as a single parent and getting a healthy allowance from me- but if and when I need to get my own place there is no way I could afford what I am paying her right now- so part of my rationale of moving back home is to stop this status quo- if she wants the D, I cannot move on whilst I am tied to a house that she cannot afford on her own and the payments of which would leave me unable to get my own place in which I can adequately house my children.

Step 1. Move back into the house
Step 2. Ask her to move out and remove all her stuff from the master bedroom

This $hit is not easy but being strong is the only way this turns out how you want it to turn out.

She is still BF the youngest (2 and a half YO) and she will claim she needs the MB as it is upstairs next to his room- if I reclaim the MB she will claim this isn't fair on the children and I don't want the children to suffer.