Jim, just out of curiosity, what was the original reason your wife gave for wanting a divorce? I remember she put a lot of blame on you but you've changed and surely she's seen those changes. Perhaps someday she'll see that you truly changed and it'll inspire her to change as well. Too bad none of these spouses see these things within our time frames or the divorce time frame. Untreated depression can affect people in ways that we must not be able to understand as well. Sometimes I feel she wants you to rescue her and say "I'm not going to let you do this. I'm going to take care of you and get you well…." but how can anyone know if that's what she's thinking? It seems you're doing the right thing by letting the divorce go through but staying pleasant and approachable in case she wants to signal that she's having second thoughts.
