They think of nothing because they are too wrapped up with om and their new life.......you want as little contact as possible. Ask her nothing unless it involves the kids.
Joeseph, i meant to ask you...did youre W live with you until she found the Landing pad you mentioned earlier? Or had she moved out? When did the papers come?
ME 47 W 38 M17 T20 Separated 5/20/18 D-bomb 7/9/2018 Nothing Filed 4 kids ages 6, 10, 14, 15
She moved into an apt 3 weeks after bd......I was in limbo for 8 months and I believe she told me she was ready to move forward with divorce when she was confident with her current bf.....they are still together. Don’t let them fool you.
I will add that anything you do should only be for you and your kids until you are emotionally healed and relatively detached.... You should circle the wagons around yourself. I am about 90% healed however I still have my moments like tonight when my daughters FaceTimed their mom.....they asked her where she was at and she said her bfs name.......I had to leave the room. She stuttered when they asked and I could tell she didn’t want to say it but she didn’t want to lie either. I told her early on when she told me about him that I never wanted his name brought up so I could tell she was trying to not go there. Deep down they know what they have done but their own desires overrule everything else.
So I can keep the kids till Saturday night 10 or I can keep them till sunday morning if you would like. I am just leaving early sunday morning. I am going on a trip. And will not be back until thursday. So the only day I would need to make arrangements for is Wednesday night if you cant keep them?? Let me know. So i can figure things out.
I replied ==where are you going?
Her reply ==A trip. just need to make sure I have kids arranged before I go. 🙂
Now what?
ME 47 W 38 M17 T20 Separated 5/20/18 D-bomb 7/9/2018 Nothing Filed 4 kids ages 6, 10, 14, 15
Lane, I can't really speak on behalf of people having affairs because I can't imagine having one but my husband blocks out everything about our life together when he meets someone new. I don't think they care about us at all during those times, but that can all change when the new relationship starts to have problems or ends. Then suddenly they remember a lot of things about us. You may need to just have patience for a while!
So I can keep the kids till Saturday night 10 or I can keep them till sunday morning if you would like. I am just leaving early sunday morning. I am going on a trip. And will not be back until thursday. So the only day I would need to make arrangements for is Wednesday night if you cant keep them?? Let me know. So i can figure things out.
I replied ==where are you going?
Her reply ==A trip. just need to make sure I have kids arranged before I go.
She asked me if I was going to answer her...I still have not replied.
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ME 47 W 38 M17 T20 Separated 5/20/18 D-bomb 7/9/2018 Nothing Filed 4 kids ages 6, 10, 14, 15
Lane, I'm online but I'm not sure I have good input like some of the senior members. It seems however your wife is set on going and your poor kids are not her priority. I'd say to take the kids on the days that she needs if you can. Just for the kids' sake, not hers. Those poor kids surely need all of your love and as much quality time with you as they can get right now.
I thought I'd reply; Of course I will keep the kids. But do I say much more than that...I so bad want to ask where,who and all that...and let her know I'm disappointed in her choices etc...I know she knows I'm holding up on answering because I know who shes going with...so hurtful and cruel...I guess I should just let it go and tell her ...yeah I will take the kids no problem and not get into questions etc...it will just hurt me more...right?
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ME 47 W 38 M17 T20 Separated 5/20/18 D-bomb 7/9/2018 Nothing Filed 4 kids ages 6, 10, 14, 15
Never ask where she is going.....they r your kids watch them. I always take my kids and it has no bearing on the outcome of your sitch however I would say that going forward you need more advance notice for you so you can plan your life properly as well. You might also need her to be flexible with you in the upturn as well.
