Thank you for your reply. My husband is not wearing the ring anymore. For the last couple of months he wore it, when he went to work, school events etc, where people knew him, but not in anonymous places. Now he does not wear it at all. He has mentioned the apartment to me and will call again this week to see if one is available for October. As for the other woman. Two weeks ago I went on an overnight camping trip with the boys. Since he did not really listen to me he assumed we would stay for two nights. We returned, when he was still at the gym. For some reason I went into our former office, that is now mainly his room and saw a parcel addressed to a woman that I do not know in a city that I know he has been traveling to for work.When he arrives home he is obviously upset, that we are there. I did not mention the packet. But when my son was in his room later that night he told me that dad had hidden a packet under his blanket. So, why this secrecy? Besides that he goes out on walks almost every night and denied my son to go along, or he is upset when I want to go running at the same time he goes out running. When he is running it seems he takes longer then he used to. He could be running longer distances now, but does not seem that exhausted when he comes home. I assume he talks to her on the phone. Also texting a lot, smiling at his phone. I could just check the phone bill, but have not done so yet. I have not mentioned my suspicion to him, but have made a remark like: I will have to go into your room later, so please hide anything you do not want me to see, so he might assume that I saw the parcel. He also has made no secret out of the fact, that he is looking for a new relationship. I just was hoping he would have the decency to at least wait until he has moved out. It makes me so disappointed, sad, mad at the same time. Just thinking, that I cook meals for him, do his laundry, while he pursues another woman drives me crazy. And he never ever says thank you or it tastes good anymore, which he has always done for the last 15 years. I feel so used. For the last two days I have taken off the ring, avoid talking to him and have been rather cold. I have reread the section about last resort in DR, but find it hard to find the balance between not chasing and not being cold.
