Need Guidance moving from new comer to MLC,

[DnJ]

That was a good question from mediator. Why do you tell W - I am sorry you feel that way.

We say it because it validates spouse’s feelings.

We say it because we are advised to.

We say it because we don’t know what else to say.


Eventually you realize the most important reason.

You say it because - you are sorry she feels that way.

You say it because it’s true.