In my case and many others here, the lbs is the target of their anger and blame at least Until shortly after D, and then they cool off for the most part.
I’m sorry she’s introducing the kids and taking the decision away from them. Idk why anyone would do that but I bet it is some issue from her childhood. I see it a lot w my ex.
You last post reminded me, if you haven’t, you should speak w/the kids teachers too (who knows what they’ve been told) and let them know the basics and making sure you get included on everything.