She doesn't sound any crazier than YOU my dear. Mr. I want my marriage to work but I started to date another but I still want my wife back.
You hold everything she says to a tee when one of the first rules you were told to remember was believe nothing they say. But you pick and choose what you want to hear from her, at select times, and then you also use some of the things she says to validate you actions. Very juvenile.
I'll be honest. I can totally understand why she says she thinks that you will be mean. You take everything that she says and mark it in stone and scrutinize it to the tee. Dang dude. Calm down!!!!