Just a question- My W is coming over to cleanup the basement of clutter on Thursday. I know to actively listen and validate. I need to keep working and practicing those. Now the last time she came over-the dog we purchased together, was very hesitant to see her after 3 months of her being absent. Even when she bent down to kiss my dog on the top of his head he backed away. Now she did mention when she as leaving that her apartment allows for dogs and that there is a park nearby. Then she said "I'd like to take the dog for a day or maybe a weekend?" My response was "I understand you want to spend time with the dog but I need to think about it." She then gave me a puzzled look and said "really?" I said "Yes- I need to think about it ." And I walked away.
Knowing W she will ask about taking my dog. My feeling is that it looks like my dog doesn't want to spend time with her and be away from me. And secondly , I feel that she could have spent any and all the time in the world with my dog and had interactions with him everyday but she choose to separate and move on . So along with choice of separating comes consequence not having the dog. You guys may think this is controlling but I feel that she made the choice to move out- with that choice she got to live with it. Now how would you guys react when asked if she could take my dog? Thanks in advance for your input . All input is welcomed.
M51 w50 T-20Yrs M-16Yrs S15- mad at W for not trying and giving up 1 Awesum dog BD 10/31/17 separate rooms 02/08/18 wife moved out 05/17/18
