DB / Detach, WAW... piecing

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She talks about her deserving the support and me saying she doesnt being a trigger. That and me saying that it was her choice to leave and separate. She says she had to leave because she felt like she was going to die... Realistically I think I should just move forward with the divorce.

If I stop paying the support Im sure we will divorce and the support will be part of the divorce settlement. Id think divorcing and going no contact would be the option with a 90 day cool down period. I havent paid her the 3rd month of support yet. I had my checkbook with me today but didnt pay it yet.

Steve- You dont think a woman who was married and stopped working to raise a child then gets divorced should get support... because the legal system does. I guess you're meaning that we aren't divorced and I don't have to pay support. She could also get approximately 20k additional money based on an investment property and IRA I have if she pushed things legally. If I were to stop the support and not divorce I dont know what the hell Id say- I agreed to pay 3 months of support so we could spend time together and get to know eachother, we haven't.

If you want to divorce now do it. I just dont see the positive outcome. I dont think she will want to get to know each other... she will feel scared and helpless with no money and no income. She will be spiteful and angry and feel like Im trying to control her with money.

She agreed we should get divorced today. We were supposed to talk tonight she said shes tapped out. She asked me to talk tomorrow night but I have plans. I told her I want to finish the conversation in the next couple days.

W says the financial stability I offer as well as D4 having both parents should have nothing to do with if we are together. It should be based on us and our feelings. I disagree and basically have to agree to disagree here.

D4 had first day of school today seemed to love it. But after she was saying where's dad I miss dad etc... W tells me this I respond she always will. She just doesnt seem to get it - the family and having two full time parents. She never had it herself.