Thank you, it really is so difficult. And at this point I truly am still doing all of this in hopes to get him back. "Let him go to get him back", and i know it doesnt work that way. But I am just being honest. I am still in hopes we can work, so I will fake it til I make it for sure because I do want a positive outcome.
Maybe in the meantime I will actually become detached and eventually feel better off without him. But for now, I sure do want him to feel some remorse and regret and try to get his life back. Maybe one day