Reading through your sitch now, I cannot believe how similar our H seemed to be behaving. I see in here yours wasnt having an A like mine was, but your H definitely behaved exactly like mine. All of a sudden wanting a D out of NOWHERE, saying he didnt even want to be separated because he knew he just didnt want to be married anymore. Those were my H exact words on BD and I was LOST.
2 months later I discovered the OW and everything became clear. He became scared, immediately quit his job, and said he would never see her again and make us work. Cut to months down the line and here we are..I am going to continue reading your threads, but again it is nice to know we are not alone, newborns and all. I know how awful it feels and I also know how nice it feels to get advice on here with suggestions of what to do, since being in the sitch its hard to see it from another perspective.
I took your recent advice to me and told H we need to make a schedule for time with D. If you read my thread you can see that it was very upsetting to him. He started to cry and left and then apologized in a text later. It was hard to follow through but I knew you were right in telling me to do that.
I am going to keep reading your thread now, I hope we can help one another through all of this.
