My little daughters 3 - last 2 weeks of family

[LANE777]

I think you already know what to do. It's the fear that holds you down. Go back and read some of the posts that helped you out from the long time vets. That's what I do occasionally. I also consider my WW as being dead. She is definitely not the same person I married. Same with your WH. But Iike I've been told, you've got to be Awesome in every way. Your kids will need to look at you as the strongest most coolest mom ever. They are walking in your footsteps. So what they see is what they get. It's so totally natural to let your thoughts get the best of you. I let it happen way too often. My good days and nights are usually because I TRY to replace those thoughts with something more positive. The sooner you can let go, the sooner you can be happy. It's my goal to get to the point where I don't care either way. Of course you're thinking about your history and how badly you want things to go back the way it was , and now you just want a fresh start with a new relationship with H. The fact is, our WS's have other feelings for someone else and we don't matter ATM.
So get your a$$ in gear and start being awesome for yourself and your kids. Your H isn't as happy as he thinks he is. Hes being super flakey and you don't have time for it. I've talked alot of women who told me straight up, that once they woke up and didn't care. After they got tired of waiting and stressing out about their H. Yep you guessed it, Their WH came back begging and crying for forgiveness. And then guess what? The W had moved so far on that the WH had no chance in hell,no chance ever. They said it felt so good and they are all happier than they've ever been. They all have children too. Now I don't know if yours will do come crying back. But get yourself to that point. Once a woman makes up her mind, it's made up. So, just like everyone here has said. Do this for yourself and kids. Don't chase someone who has dumped you and is cheating on you. You're better than that no doubt. Men like what they can't have. If he knows he can waltz right on back, I gauruntee he will waltz right on back out with another gal in time. So get yourself as tough and awsome as soon as possible. Get a new mindset and don't worry so much. You will look back at this and wonder why you let it bother you so bad. And you will be the strongest person you know. Keep it up Arsh..good days are coming!