OneArt and Job, I accnot thank you enough for the advice and perspective. It helps me a lot. My WAW and I met at work when I was going through a divorce of my first marriage. We clicked and were inseparable. We started dating heavy after my divorce and she got pregnant. We married later that year and she bonded so well with my eldest kids. My job requires a lot of travel and I was away for visitation with my eldest so, I think this, coupled with PPD she was diagnosed with after the birth, lead to MLC. I think she went from business trips and fun to stay at home with two kids. I did not help by not being around, and then BD. She separated once before when she was pregnant with #2 but we reconciled for 6 months and then BD and wanted divorce. For a year it was picking fights with me and trying to get me to file. 1 year later she finally filed and now nothing. I live at her siblings house when not nesting, so at least her family is ok with me. I think they know it is her, but they do nothing. I am most scared for my eldest, who already went through a divorce just 5 years ago. There are days I am angry for her selfishness and there are days when AU just want to hug her because I miss her. I have written so many cards and offered so many times for trips or dinners or just time away; all denied. Does not want to talk about R or M; only writes. Based on your feedback, I just assumed wrongly to assume MLC came with years married, but I guess it just happened due to other circumstances. I several female friends who want to be with me, but I do not lead to temptation, because I still believe in her and us.
