Need Guidance moving from new comer to MLC,

[marina7]

Thank you Everyone as you all said alot to absorb in one day and a gut punch
Finding out W been in contact with my family and biological parents

At one point W was very protective of kids. W was all about protecting them.
Now it seems W throwing our kids to the wolf.

Unfortunately I realized I must stop protecting my kids keeping them
in a bubble I must have a deep conversation with them about my job was
to keep them together and it's done.

Answering questions about therapy, still not sure if my
Therapist will agree I trust my therapist will know best.
If therapist says No then I believe therapist will guide me

Honestly as I said it's about the kid's also I know
God will watch them. I realized W is in a path to destroy Us.

Now healing again begins for me. As I won't lie the last 3 days lots
of tears crying myself to sleep. Vomiting because it feels horrible the betrayal
W did of putting our children back in the hands of abusers.
And many will ask the Judge even in the worse case of child abuse will
allow supervised visit. Wow. I could be there present also in visit or just W.

Also I was a stander and honestly after days of thinking I am not sure I will stand
for W as our family values are different W has showed a side I never imagined.

I have contacted my therapist will be seeing her Tomorrow and going back to group church

Now I read alot, my mom has also gave me good advice maybe W needs this
W needs to see its not as easy W thinks. In the time of us having our 3 kids I always
been more the care taker doctor appointment when they are sick, when tummy hurts or anything like that
W never been that mommy type she was more if they fall and scrape knee W would say walk it off
So maybe given W all the responsibilities she might see and realize oh crap...

Honestly is like me gambling with W. Also W has a very demanding job and W made it
Clear in mediation that nothing going to stop her from growing which I wish her well.

But unfortunately having 3 kids that will be hard. Mediator also said to W that she hopes W job
Understand as W will need to make sure they get to school and out of school and they still
in all activities they where with me. D10 in girl scouts, band, art and STEM. S9 in art class and band and boy scouts.

I did say they must stay in all activities and ve involved as I was I had several surgeries but in a week of back surgery over 100 stitches I was back to taking care of my kids the school was in shock to see my strength.


All I can say time will tell with all this. Only thing I can do is take the back seat and watch all this.

I'll take all advice and 2x4 as we are all learning and some have been in worse situations or same .
I know I don't know it all I am taken all advice from here. I have followed many advices as they have helped me and kids

Again Thank you. For all of you.