I am now thinking all of the affection and closeness was her controlling me again and keeping me hanging- I am still at my mothers and still in limbo-
I read your post and it made me extremely angry on some many levels. What makes you think it isn't your business that she is having an affair? Why are you at the table like a dog taking any scraps she is willing to throw you? Why would you do something like that in front of your kid? Why in the fuch are you living at your moms? I am going to be completely honest right now, her and OM are getting great amusement out of her toying with you.
Until you find your balls and realize you love yourself and value yourself too much to put up with this BS, you will continue to be in limbo and suffer immense pain like you never felt before