I don't know if I want to save my marriage anymore

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I’ve been here for 4 months WW is still having affair, I think my sitch is more difficult because she cannot afford to leave and OM is not leaving his W. I would prefer if she just left because it is easier to cope when she is not here because I do not have to worry about where I am in the house, how to respond to questions on the spot, etc. I have made some mistakes because of that.

My first 6 weeks were very difficult, sleep,trying to GAL, detaching, etc after 17 years with someone that has changed overnight and I know that I have had a decent marriage with. It is very hard but like everyone said you have to start doing things for you, not worrying about where H is all the time, staring at Phone all the time waiting for contact. You won’t change his mind right now it has to play out either way.

I know it stinks but you are only in control of you. I am the same way, our life was together, everything.....and now I am alone to start GAL. It takes time to get your head back in the game, but definitely consult a L if you need financial support but only consider D if you know for sure. Doesn’t hurt to be prepared.

Follow some of the techniques the best that you can. Read, that has helped me a lot, post here, you will see that many more than you think have gone through this. Go for a walk, change your routine, I joined a single again group, exercise is huge, at 49 I am in better shape than when I was 30. Think about what you will do depending on how this will play out. If all you have is family, reach out to them, confide in those that you are ok telling them how you feel. Maybe they have ideas about options for moving forward.