I agree with Davide. By withholding the kids you are guaranteeing the situation will be worse. You would be giving your wife the ultimatum - do what I say or else you won’t have the children. That is controlling. Yes her taking the children wasn’t fair on you but that is done now. You don’t even know if she has received the letter from your solicitor. Maybe check with the solicitor when it was posted out.
I now know that L representing W has been sent the childcare offer and I have sent W a message to let her know. I asked whether she has received it.
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How do you know her parents do nearly all the childcare? You aren’t there. What basic home comforts are they missing out on?
W is often at work when the kids finish school so has to get her parents and other parents to do after school childcare. W doesn't cook the kids meals etc. There are no proper beds, sofa, internet etc. at the other house.
The kids normal routine school routine was for me to collect from school, cook for them, homework etc. for a few hours before W came home from work.
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You say you wish to have the children on school days and you wife then weekends? Why cannot it be split equally? Surely that would be the starting point? You must want some weekends with the children yourself?
Offer is that W would get 3 out of 4 weekends, plus one evening each week to take the kids out for a meal.
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So if she doesn’t agree with your plan tomorrow you will refuse her access to the children until it goes to court?
W is very welcome to see them but shouldn't take them away from home to live elsewhere without a childcare plan agreed. W has been saying she wants a childcare plan and she does want me to collect the kids from school etc. so hopefully she will agree to it. However, the worry is that she will not agree, take the kids again and try to get them established at her house and then I could lose a case. I could then lose the kids and the home.
