This feels strange, I have never posted anything before, and now the most personal experiences to complete strangers, but I need someone who is willing to listen and maybe advice: About a year ago my husband dropped the bomb: He was unhappy and wanted out. I "convinced" him to try again within a few days. That worked for maybe 2 months and then went downhill. Since January we have separat bedrooms, no physical contact and he is talking about moving out. He always found reasons to delay the moving ( work load, kids school year coming to an end...) but now seems to really plan on moving. He is waiting for the apartment he wants to become available and is on the waiting list, it might happen next month. He also told the kids ( 12 and 15).While I think he had doubts at first, I think he knows what he wants now. Since about two weeks I assume that there is another woman involved, maybe only an emotional affair (I think she is out of town), but maybe I am just to naive and I think I don't want to know. After his initial talk I acted extremely loving and clingy. Looking back I realize off course I drove him further away. I then started reading a lot of books, including divorce remedy, gave him more space, tried not to push, but was still trying to fix marriage. ( following the marriage fitness program.). I also worked on getting my own life, started a class for work, and am running a lot, went out with friends occasionally. Now it seems like all attempts have failed. I am more willing to detach, but find it hard with the kids in the house. One question is: Should I still wear the ring? I feel like I should wear it for as long as we are married, but not sure what signal that sends. Other question is about doing house work. I have always been in charge of all the shopping, cooking, house cleaning, laundry and driving the kids. Last week I told him, that since we were not a couple anymore, but just housemates, he should do his part. It seems awkward to cook for me and the kids and then have him fix his own meals, so I suggested he could be in charge of dinner two days a week. He ended up getting take out once. But I am not sure if I should enforce it. I think I am just too nice. Sorry if this sounds very confused, I guess I lost a lot of time and it might be too late anyway.
