I was thinking that W has really been getting antagonisyic with me. It seems she almost is trying to pick fights and im not always good at steering clear of them when she does it either. I was trying to figure out why she has been this way, or what was goong on because we have never had this type of tension going on between us even through this sitch. Then it dawned on me that this coincided with her filing for divorce. Its almost like she has made it a point that she has animosity with me since she filed, or at least that she is making it so intentionally...almost like it had to be there if there is a D going on. I dont know if its because she was done once she filed and figured the hell with me after that or its her conscience or what???
I told her what she was doing isnt right(creating drama), and that she was better than that. Obviously she didnt respond well to that and she started to just get more fired up from it. I know i should have said as little as possible but it was in the heat of the moment and now i realize that i have to stay lazer focused on not falling into her traps.
Im guessing this is a common theme but W will play friendly when she wants/needs something or is trying to let me know she is "helping me" when she is getting ready to use me or get over on me in some sort of fashion in regard to D.
We are now getting ready to get into the thick of the D sitch, and ill take any advice i can get. I have sought legal advice, but i definitely am going to need more and id also like advice from my fellow db'ers. I believe my W would like it if i would just lesve with nothing and vanish into thin air. Im having a real tough time coping with the idea that i probably wont get to see my S everyday or have him under the same roof as me every night. Thats the worst part of this whole thing.
Together:20 years M:3 years Me:40 WW:40 S15 A suspected:5/17 AC:5/18 BD:8/18 WW in full blown R w/ OM Still under same roof