I'm Broken III

[LoneWlf]

I'm afraid my children will be angry with me. There are a few examples on this board of kids who are very angry with the parent who left. Some people think marriage is to be saved at all costs and that to walk away makes you a horrible person who evidently doesn't even deserve the love of their own children.

Helena, I can see this creates a lot of turmoil for you and I feel you may be referring to my sitch in regards to my S being upset at his mom for giving up. What I can tell you is that I feel that my S is wiser beyond his years. One of the reasons is that we regularly attend mass every Sunday. He has been able to determine from the teachings of Mom and Dad and the church what is right from what is wrong. I feel that since there has been no beating,cheating or abuse even no signs of friction between us in front of him. I have never even sworn or cussed at my W for I feel I need to respect the mother of my child. So he probably feels that what we had was good or at least repairable. He saw that W did not even want to try MC at his request. I know it is not up to him but that is why he is mad. I'm not sure all kids would view it like this. I do know -I try to facilitate a relationship but will not force one upon him- that is for him and her to figure out. I have read your response and I can relate to a lot of your feelings. I do hope that things work out for you and your family. Try and stay grounded and stable and keep positive. Blessings!