No worries Jujub. It is a tough one with the photos as if only one parent gives his/her consent then the photos still can go on social media.
Just venting here. My eldest upset me yesterday when she got back from her holidays with her father. Both kids told me that it was their worst holidays with him. It was their first holidays with their dad and one of his GF (usually they were in contact with OW during his weekend, but never went away for a whole week with OW). Then my elsdest said that she wanted to live with him, all of this because I told her off for misbehaving. She accused me of loving her siblings more. I told her that wasn't the case but that when I say something her sibling listens to me whereas with her I have to repeat myself at least 5 times and she constantly moan. Anyway I rang her dad and she left a crying message as he didn't answer. I texted him (he read the message, no reply). I drove by his house (not in). It is a shame because I had to show her that her dad doesn't give a monkey about her because she was accusing me of untrue things. I didn't bad mouth her dad. I just did all I could for her to get in touch with him and to show that if she wants to speak to him I won't stop her. It's frustrating because they can see that their dad doesn't care that much about them and only use them because OW is really craving to be surrounded by kids. For their first holidays together they went with OW and some of her friends. When we were together he refused to have holidays with friends. Both my kids were crying because they wanted us to go back together and be a happy family. I told them that it can't be done because I don't trust their dad anymore and that I don't love him. I guess with them going on holidays with OW they realised that this one is going to be there for the long run!
I'm more upset because I'm on my own and I have no family support and brining up two kids isn't easy. I'm upset because he is living a great life (no kids to worry about just him and OW). But the worst is that he hasn't even contacted his daughter when she was crying on the phone to him saying that she misses him. Both my kids told me that they asked their dad to spend some time with him just the 3 of them he says yes but it never happens. I feel like my kids believe that I am letting them down because I can't seem to make their dad spends more time with them. I keep telling them that I can only tell him how they feel but I cannot force him to do anything. I feel like I am letting them down. On a funny note ex shows OW all the texts I send him but funny enough not the one when I asked him if OW knows about the several cheating.
