In 5 days it will be W and my 10year anniversary. Every day I’ve had crazy flashbacks of random events leading up to our wedding day. I have to drive by the hotel we had our reception at and the memories flood in.
I struggle back and forth if I should reach out to W or not, but know the DB method is to stay silent and if she were to bring up...validate and move on.
My plan is to plan a special event with my S6 and possibly my parents.
I’ve gone completely dark on W last 5 days and feel it’s having some impact. She has tried to reach out on multiple occasions thru texts, phone, FB messenger, e-mail, etc....I’ve ignored all of them.
S is still having trouble adjusting to his new school, and continues to say that it’s because he misses all of us together as a family. It’s about enough to break me....but I continue to just tell him once our house sells, we are going to make a special place for just him and I. When he displays his sadness, is when I really want to reach out to W and ask her WTF she is doing....but know i cant say or do anything at this stage to get her out of the fog.
Just frsutrating to get stonewalled constantly.....while she gets horrible advice from a toxic aunt thats on her 4th marraige and indirectly wrecked both ofnher own daughters marriages over stupid reasons. W also has started to hang out with new friends that are all divorced..FWIW
Has anyone else had to deal with a toxic influence that impacts WAS? Any suggestions on how to handle?
Me - 38 W-37 S6 M 10 years T 13yrs BD 3/18 W moves out 4/18 W files 7/18
