Had a thought that I wanted an opinion on. My WW wife has said repeatedly that a lifetime of missing someone would be painful and she is referring to herself if something happened to us. This hasn't been in moments when she is trying to pull me back in and test me but in definite moments of weakness and when she has been opening up. She has been saying that things were getting better for a stretch there before i fully detached and said that we were getting there and I chose to leave (I know this coming from the person who is still having the A, but I know she is f'ed up in the head right now). I have done nothing but validate at these times but want to propose another option.
Would I consider after she says something like this to ask her what would she want from me to get back to that point where she said we were getting better? and in return I would ask for her to put her A on hold to see if this is really what she wants? My thinking is no f'ing way she would do that and with all her lies could say sure, but just wanted to throw this out there.
She does have her first therapy session next week but I know she needs many more before I would expect to see any light if at all at the end of the tunnel.
Or just tell me to stfu and keep doing what I'm doing because it has worked to some extent.
H-50 W-48 T-19 M -18 S23, S14 BD - 5/9/2018 OM discovered 5/10/2018
In house sep - 8/18/2018 Rope drop 2/15/2019 R'ing since 3/15/2019
