I asked to many questions. Like, if you're off work tomorrow, why dont you pick up kids and hang with them. She said. 'because I have plans ".
Be very, very honest with yourself. Were you wanting her to hang out with the kids at your place (b/c you miss her), or were you just wanting her to spend time with them anywhere? Either way is no good. It comes off looking like pursuit and control. You have to stop suggesting to her what she needs to do with the kids. It's her life and her choice. She's an adult and doesn't appreciate your suggestions as to how she spends her time......especially since you are separated. You can't make her be the parent you believe your kids needs, and everytime you say something like this......she resents you deeply. Resentment is one of the big ingredients that goes into the foundation of waywardness. In other words, it helped to get you in this mess, and everytime you say something along these lines to her.....it just digs the marital grave deeper. You can't continue to do the same action and expect different results.
((hugs))
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
